Letrodectus or black widow spiders are typically known for
killing and eating the male after mating. This well-known little black
creature could not possibly embody the concept of the man-eating woman
any better.
Most of you know what I'm talking about here. Either you know a woman, have dated one, have watched them on TV, or are one yourself....
I'm not suggesting that ALL Black Widows are women who go from man to man; take them away from other women, and/or use and abuse them. I am merely talking about the female version of the "bad boy".
Somewhere somehow, we (and I say we, because I fall into this category), have developed a talent for either leading men around like little puppies on a leash or completely scaring them off at first site. (I personally fall into the latter category. I can barely keep them around long enough to get the leash attached to their collar.)
Black Widows are strong, confident women who carry their sexuality on their sleeves. (I should have a row of Oscar trophies for my ability to act as if I could care less if men called.) Taking after the women who have read "The Rules" is certainly NOT an option.
When it comes to dating, general fairness and rules need not apply. Only the strong survive.....and the weak get eaten (or rejected, or never called again...).
According to "The MANual", Steven Santagati claims these characteristics separate "Black Widows" from the rest of the female population:
• They have no problem blowing men off
• They know how men think
• They dress in a way that leaves their victims helpless
• They communicate with their eyes as much as they do with their bodies, and usually back up their gazes with a knowing smirk
• They're unapologetically sexy
The problem is: When does confidence equal attractiveness and when does confidence equal intimidation?
Roles have started to reverse for both men and women when it comes to dating. More and more women are doing the approaching and the asking out. Why sit back and wait for the man to approach you? While you're sitting there on your ass, a more forward woman may be snagging your man!
